Who Are You?

Who are you?  It is a simple question, but there are so many possible answers.  So, let me ask you.  Who are you?  What is the first thing that comes to mind?  They say that men tend to answer this question with their profession, while women, if they have kids, tend to answer with saying they are a mother (even if they have a job besides being a mother).

OK, I’ll go first.  I am a teacher and Beachbody Coach.  Those are my two “occupations”, and I am proud of both of them.  However, I didn’t know growing up that I wanted to be either one of those things.  I wanted to get married and have kids.  So, let me add to my list.  I am a husband and a father.  From here, I could really start listing things.  I am a Christian, a son, brother, uncle, nephew, cousin.  I am a friend, athlete, guitarist (using the term very loosely).




So, let me ask you again.  Who are you?  Think about it a second, and then let’s keep going with this.  Ready?  Now, let’s take it a step further.  Which of those titles is most important to you?  If you had to pick one to describe yourself, which one would you pick?  There is an old saying.  “Show me your checkbook, and I’ll tell you your priorities.”  It essentially means that you spend your money on what is important to you.  I would like to add to it.  Show me your calendar, and I will tell you your priorities.  If you are like an average American, you are probably working roughly 40 hours per week.  What do you do with the rest of your time?  Do you spend it with your family?  If so, do you spend it interacting, or sitting in front of the TV?

Time for another question.  If your marriage (or whatever relationship you are in) is important to you, does the other person know it?  Do you show them that you are proud to be with them?  If you have kids, do they know how special they are to you?




Here is my challenge (and this goes for me too).  Whoever you are, be the best you that you can be!  Yes, that sounds about as corny as it gets, but I am serious.  Guys, be the best husband/boyfriend you can.  Make sure she knows how much you love and cherish her.  Wives, same goes for your husbands.  Men want to know they are loved and respected.  Parents, tell (and show) your kids that you love them.  If you have a job, do the best you can at it.  No, it may not be your forever job, but it is your job now, so do it right!  Call a friend you haven’t talked to in awhile, help a neighbor, reach out to someone who needs it.  I read a book years ago called Being Better Than Your Best.  It talked about striving to be the best version of you that you can be.  Don’t tell yourself that you need to wake up tomorrow and be perfect.  Simply work on being a little better tomorrow than you were today, and you will become a better you.

Have a nice day!

– Joe Malone